There are literally these "for dummies" books being printed just about for everything these days. This for dummies, that for dummies, it's every where, and about everything. It says, it is for dummies, not because they think people are dummies, it is because, the books teach you the basics, just from the scratch to the top. So, get yourself, one of those and you will be fine.
Here is an example of the book for beginners in programming.
http://www.dummies.com/store/product/Beginning-Programming-For-Dummies-4th-Edition.productCd-0470088702.html
And here is a lot more!
http://www.dummies.com/store/Computers-Internet/Programming.html
Don't give up, Practice, join web programming discussion forums like:
daniweb.com forums.digitalpoint.com ask anything you want, and people will reply to you.
It's just like yahooanswers, but the community there is all about computers/programming.
For designing websites, start with HTML, then CSS, then PHP in tizag.com
This site helped me, when I was newbie too: www.homeandlearn.co.uk/
Actually if you are a beginner, and you want to program software only then LEARN HTML. it is the easiest scripting language ever, and it will give you a very good understand of the world of programming. It is like wanting to be a guitarist, and having your little guitar as a kid. It may not be the best guitar, but it will teach you a lot.